Couples Therapy

cherry5-e1473627202506I view the therapy room as a safe and confidential place

… where you and your partner can gain insight on your relationship so that you can arrive at the mutual place of nurturance and understanding. Practical collaborative conflict resolution will also be used in order to meet your individualized goals.

Whether you are dating, engaged, or have been married for years, couples therapy can be helpful if one or both of you feel stuck in a pattern of conflict that seems hard to navigate. Couples therapy can also be useful to prepare for the next stage of relationship – whether it be pre-engagement or pre-marital counseling.

For couples who are interested in understanding their relationship from multiple angles, I also offer the Prepare and Enrich relationship assessment tool in conjunction with couples therapy.

In my work with couples, I use a variety of techniques based on attachment theory. If appropriate, I often draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples (EFT).

Couples Therapy Process:

Participating in Couples therapy can result in many benefits, such as better understanding of your relationship with your significant other and resolution of specific concerns that brought you to therapy. Working towards these benefits requires energy and commitment, and can bring about strong feelings such as anger, sadness, or fear.  It may require you to face some painful memories or difficult circumstances.  Initially, clients may feel anxious for change to occur rapidly.  However, emotions, thoughts, attitudes, habits, and relationship patterns that have developed over the years will take some time to change.

Therapy is a safe place for you to explore issues, identify problems, integrate new learning, and take positive action. Early sessions will be used to clarify your concerns, examine your expectations of therapy, set goals, take history, and develop a working relationship between the couple and therapist. Issues related to emotional, physical, spiritual and intellectual well-being are interrelated and may need to be addressed to work toward healing and wholeness. Since the nature of therapy is to provide a safe place for the couple as the primary client, there is a no secrets policy in couples therapy. 

Therapy is not done for you, or to you, but with you and your significant other.  This collaborative process works best when you are honest about your goals, your resources, and your perceptions of the work we are doing together.

Confidentiality:

All information that I receive during the counseling process will be held in strict confidence unless:
a.    the client authorizes release of information with a signature
b.    the therapist is ordered by a court to release information
c.    a client presents a physical danger to self or others
d.    child or elder abuse or neglect is suspected

In the latter two cases, I am required by law to inform potential victims and legal authorities so that protective measures can be taken.


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